What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 19.06.2025 00:09
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Off the top of my ancient head:
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Why do Christians think voting for Trump is any better than voting for Kamala Harris?
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Why do I feel like I want to suck a big dick after injecting meth?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
What song are you listening to right now? What does it mean to you?
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
What was Easter day like for you as a child?
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.